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26

Feb
2013

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“Safe” Sexting

On 26, Feb 2013 | No Comments | In Resources | By PBJ

Safe Sexting? 

“Putting something on the internet is no different than leaving it on the table at a coffee shop in the mall.”

– Behnke, 2009

What is sexting?

the act of sending sexually explicit messages or photos electronically

 

Problems with sexting

NO guaranteed privacy

NO changing your mind

Nothing is truly anonymous

Recipient may not want sexts

 

Sexting Statistics

48% of teens have received sexts

78% of teen girls & 82% of teen boys are NOT sending nude/semi-nude pictures or videos

63% of teen girls & 60% of teen boys are NOT sending sexually suggestive messages

*(stats taken from thenationalcampaign.org, 2008)

 

Ideas? 

How do you stay strong under pressure?

What are ways that you can avoid sending sexts if you don’t want to?

22

Feb
2013

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Equitable Communication: 4 steps

On 22, Feb 2013 | No Comments | In Resources | By PBJ

Healthy communication is vital to a healthy relationship. Please take some time to read the following steps in order to engage in healthy, respectful and equitable dialogue.

 

 1) Keep your cool

Learn what calming strategies work for you. Take the time to cool down before engaging in conversation.

– take deep breaths
– count to/from 139 (or another random number that works for you)
– cry
– go into another room
– think of soemthing that makes you happy
– walk away

 

2) Ask ?’s

Honestly and unaggressively ask questions to learn more about the situation. After hearing your partner’s prespective, you may come to the conclusion that the situation was a misunderstanding.

 

3) Find out about feelings?

Try to understand how your partner feels about the situation at hand. Make sure you express your own feelings. Make sure to use “I statements” to express your emotions.

“I feel (insert your specific emotion) when you (insert the specific action). Could you please (suggest positive solution to the problem)?

Ex. “I feel embarrased when you repeatedly call me when I’m out with my friends.  Could you please call less, if you know I’m busy“?

 

4) Work towards a solution

Once you’ve expressed yourself and have also learned of your partner’s emotions, work together to figure out a mutually beneficial solution.

21

Feb
2013

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Hot Buttons

On 21, Feb 2013 | No Comments | In Resources | By PBJ

Everyone has “hot buttons,” some people call these pet peeves. These are the things that make you angry whenever you feel, see or hear them. These things irritate you or get under your skin in ways that can make you angry.

Some examples:
not saying thank you –
someone chewing with mouth open –
rudeness –
feeling ignored –
misogynistic music videos –
etc. –

 

What are your hot buttons?

If you recognize your own hot buttons, you’ll be better prepared to control your anger.

 

Remember: Anger is one important feeling we have. You will probably feel angry towards your partner at some point–that’s okay. How you deal with that anger, though, can make a difference between a healthy relationship and an unhealthy one.

excerpt from Peers Building Justice
Youth Violence Prevention Curriculum

14

Feb
2013

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TDVAM National School Announcement

On 14, Feb 2013 | No Comments | In Resources | By John

This Valentine’s Day, let’s make sure everyone knows they deserve a safe and healthy relationship – no matter who they are or who they love. If you need help, loveisrespect is available 24/7. You can visit loveisrespect.org or text “loveis” to 77054.

23

Nov
2012

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What’s the difference between flirting & sexual harassment?

On 23, Nov 2012 | No Comments | In Resources | By PBJ

Flirting:

  • is welcome attention
  • goes both ways/is mutual
  • makes you feel flattered or attractive
  • makes you feel in control
  • makes you feel good about yourself
  • is legal

Sexual Harassment:

  • is not wanted
  • is one-sided
  • makes you feel put-down or ugly
  • makes you feel powerless
  • makes you feel bad or dirty
  • is a violation of school policy and the law

Sexual harassment is unwanted sexual attention or conduct.  Sexual harassment is defined by the person receiving it, just like sexual assault.

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